“The Day of the Party Dawned Bright and Clear”

Mark and I are in the San Diego airport waiting for our flight home. It’s been a whirlwind of a weekend, but we’ve had a great time and are so pleased to have been part of Jeff and Kevin’s wedding last night.

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Let’s start at the beginning, though.

Feeling much more acclimated to the time change, Mark and I got up at a decent hour. I was craving some comfort breakfast food, so we decided to hike again the 1.8 miles from our hotel to the area around the Del Coronado hotel for breakfast at a local diner joint called, Clayton’s Coffee Shop.

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Not unlike the German Village Coffee Shop on a Saturday, the line was out the door, but we only had to wait about 10 minutes for a seat around the giant magnet-shaped counter. Chocolate-chip pancakes! Yum! (The GV Coffee Shop’s pancakes, however, remain the best I’ve ever eaten. Sorry Clay!) As we tend to do, we spent most of the rest of our free time walking on the beach and through some shops between our hotel and the Del.

Walking on the beach restores my soul. I can only think that I was a sailor in a previous life. (Perhaps my irrational fear of large ships is an echo of having fallen overboard and having been struck by the boat.)

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On the way back, we finally found a Starbuck’s with decent, free wi-fi, so I was able to upload my previous two entries at last.

We had just enough time to get cleaned up and rest our feet for a few minutes before we had to meet the wedding party at the venue, Il Fornaio. Kevin was ready with our marching orders; I had been enlisted as the official photographer, and Mark was one of two ushers. The ceremony was full of moments of both happy and wistful tears, but rather than blab about it, I’ll let my photos tell the story.

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Congratulations, boys. Love from Matthew and Mark.

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Marina to Gaslamp to Little Italy

On the night we arrived (now two nights ago; I’m blogging in the morning this trip), ten of us had dinner night at a restaurant called “d.”

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Fun. Chatty. Dishy. Pretty standard fare among a group of gay men getting to know each other over dinner. Beginning in the lower left and going around the photo are Kenny, Kevin, [what should have been Jeff, but he slipped off to the men’s room], David, Tom, Rex, Phil, and Mark. I meant to take some pictures of the food, but I was having so much fun talking that I only got a shot of Mark’s coconut-shrimp appetizer.

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Mark and I rode back to our hotel with Tom and Mark—who have been traveling in southern California and Colorado for a couple weeks and have a rental car—and called it an early night. To our bodies, it was after midnight.

Our hotel—the Marriott Coronado—is a winding place with a long courtyard filled with fountains and ponds, trees and tropic plants, and even a walk-in bird cage. I could recuperate here pretty easily, even if I just spent the afternoons sitting on a chaise lounge looking at the bay. This is a shot across the courtyard and back to our door, which is the one on the left.

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We’re nearly at the end of the hotel wing, so you can imagine this kind of greenery running for another couple hundred feet back to the lobby, which is to the right in this photos. Here’s a shot from just outside our door looking back toward where I took the previous photo.

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I slept in late the following day after a fitful night; in Columbus, it was nearly noon before I rolled out of bed. I would have liked to have slept (how’s that for a complicated verb?) a little longer, but there are things to do and places to see. I’m still trying to find free or reasonable wi-fi so that I can post this damn thing! For what we’re paying per night, you would think that the hotel wi-fi would be free or at least reasonable. No such luck, so its off to find a Starbucks with a decent connection.

Because we got such a late start and had no real plans yet, we decided just to breakfast at the hotel. Meh. Hotel eggs and bacon. When we finished, we stopped by the concierge to ask where we could find some nice art galleries. After twenty minutes waiting for another couple (who, apparently, had never heard of a guide book or Yelp) to finally release Norma’s attention, she suggested the Gaslamp District and gave us directions. I was a little suspicious when she said it’s reminiscent of the French Quarter in New Orleans, but we decided to give it a go. We had planned to stay on Coronado yesterday, but Norma’s advice sounded better suited to a Friday jaunt than to Saturday.

At the Marriott pier, where we would take the Marriott water shuttle back to the mainland, we met the captain Kent and his trusty Coast Guard intern, Chris. We were the only ones on the boat, but Kent and Chris were really friendly, and we had a nice chat on the 10-minute ride over to San Diego.

We spent a significant part of our time just walking in the Gaslamp District; my suspicions turned out to be well-founded. The district is comprised almost entirely of bars and eateries. We found only three galleries, none of which were really to our taste (though the works by Dr. Seuss and Chuck Jones at the Chuck Jones Gallery were fun to see), and no shopping to speak of. The district is very much centered on nightlife, and it seemed to me to be just one step above a campus bar district. That was disappointing. What did work out for us, though, was having lunch at Union Kitchen and Tap and getting advice from one gallery owner to visit Little Italy.

Little Italy turned out to be the kind of neighborhood we were looking to walk in. It had home decor stores and some interesting shops and restaurants, residences and gardens, and a few galleries. Unfortunately, we spent too much time in the Gaslamp District and then walking to Little Italy to see many of the galleries. We did stop in one, though—Meyer Fine Art—that was just finishing up a Dali show and opening a show of vintage posters. The owner was very fun to talk to and knew quite a bit about his artists and the histories of the pieces he was showing.

We started heading back to the marina at around 3:30 so that we could rest a bit and the get ready for our dinner plans at 7. Our little excursion ended up being about 6 miles long. If we have time Sunday, I’d like to go back to Little Italy and see more of it. That the neighborhood is having its annual Italian Festival that day is an additional draw. If we don’t make it back this trip, I will definitely return to Little Italy during my next one.

Kent and Chris met us back at the marina for our return trip to the hotel, and after a little rest and sprucing up, we met the boys in the lobby, from which we would be walking to dinner. (That turned out to be another two-mile walk. Not that I’m complaining, but we took a car back from dinner. My dogs were barking after waking eight miles.)

We had dinner at Miguel’s Cocina. Being the official wedding photgrapher, I milled around the room before dinner arrived and took a few shots of the 40 or so people who came from out of town for the wedding. It speaks to how well Jeff and Kevin are loved by their friends that 40 people would travel—most of us across country—for a small-ish wedding.

Dinner was a limited menu, so it was a bit of a challenge for me, but in order not to make the waiters’ lives any more complicated than they needed to be, I muddled through. It really wasn’t awful, though. Kevin had already warned them that I have an onion allergy, and they were able to simplify my mahi mahi so that I could eat it. The mud pie dessert made me forget about the salad.

A quick car ride back with a nice couple from DC whom I’d like to get to know better (the rest of the troupe went clubbing) wound down our day. Today is the wedding. We’ll see if I’m up for a late night blog or if I put it off until Sunday.

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The Left Bookend

We’re on our way to San Diego for a wedding. As seems always to be the case with me, the process of “getting there” has been event filled—beginning with the instruction to remove our shoes even though the sign we’d just passed said we didn’t have to do so and culminating in a delayed flight, a missed connection, the prospect of 12 hours in O’Hare waiting for the next available flight, and finally (mercifully) a mad dash to get one of the last seats on a flight boarding “Right Now!“—to quote the gate agent who found it for us—for LA and then going on to San Diego . That guy is getting a jewel in his heavenly crown if I have to buy the diamond myself.

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This has been a year of weddings; the Windsor decision has opened the floodgates. It almost makes me feel like I’m back in my 20s when all my friends were tying the knot.

Mark and I were married in February—the right bookend, if you will—and in the intervening months, at least six more couples that are our friends have gotten married. This month, Kevin and Jeff—our witnesses and hosts six months ago—are marrying during the month of their 30th anniversary.

We’re over middle America right now, and, having just finished my book, I’ve got some time to think about marriage. (And to share my wisdom with you all, of course.)

When back in January I told our friend, Gil, that Mark and I were going to be married, he effused more happiness for us than anyone. Gil is something of a bulldozer. For a straight man, he’s got an unusual sensibility about antiques and art, but he’s equally interested in guns and the military and history. I think of him pretty squarely as a man’s man, but perhaps with slightly rounded edges, so the ardor of his wish for our happiness was a bit of a surprise. In our subsequent conversations, Gil often made a point that I pushed back on pretty heavily, but I seen now that he and I were talking past each other more than disagreeing.

Gil told me that marrying Lauree was a profound upturn for him. The institution of marriage, he insisted, had changed everything in his life for the better, and he wished the same for Mark and me. I was and am grateful for his perspective and for his kindness, but at the time, I wanted exactly the opposite. I still do.

One of the most important things that I wanted from Mark’s and my marriage was that nothing change. I have often seen or heard about couples who spend years together only to have their relationship unravel after they “sign the book.” I’m not sure if the marriage license inspired in them a feeling of possesiveness—”the state” or “the church” says you belong to me now—or if it’s that one or both members of the couple—suddenly aware of weight of their bond—felt no longer joined but tied and could think only of getting loose. Is it that before the relationship became contractual, there was always an escape hatch in easy reach?

For the first few months after Mark and I married, I did feel a little possessive of him, and the temptation to let our relationship take on a different character was strong. I would say to myself, “we’re married now”; I’d have to remind myself that in our own minds, our relationship has been a marriage for nearly two decades.

On our way to what I think is this year’s last marriage among our friends—the left book end—I realize that Gil’s well-intentioned wish for me was a good one; it just came 20 years too late. “Marriage” changed our lives for the better long before we got married. I wish the same for Kevin and Jeff—that they continue to do what they’ve done so well for 30 years.

We’re meeting the boys and some of their other out-of-town guests for dinner tonight—a meal that almost didn’t happen because of the flight snafus. I’ll dish about that tomorrow.

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Up Next, Montpelier. But First, . . .

I’m about to subject you to an essay on why I eschew visits to historical sites. I’m still working this out in my head. I concede that some of what you’re about to read is not fully formed thought, and my opinions may change as I work through it. If you’re not interested, just skip to the photos!

Facing the prospect of a tour of the home of another founding father, I’ve been confronting my aversion to American historical sites and asking myself why I so dislike them. I’ve been able to come up with four reasons.

First, I am not particularly interested in how people lived in the eighteenth century because frankly, life in the eighteenth century seems pretty miserable. Certainly, there were positives about eras passed—closeness to nature, a less complicated existence, a cleaner environment, a more predictable (if, perhaps, more boring) pattern of life. And I agree that life in the twenty-first century—with its pollution and noise and heightened awareness of violence and struggle and misery—has not yet reached an idyllic state, but lacking our conveniences, being at the mercy of the elements, corseting ourselves into societal norms and expectations—I find these thing to be memories happily left in the past or in the pages of books.

I’m also not much of a “Rah! Rah” fellow. The snob in me eyes anything “popular” with suspicion, it’s true, but also I am wary of the kind of mob mentality that erodes a critical analysis of the past. That Jefferson believed in the equality of all people but still owned slaves, for example, is an interesting dichotomy that was glossed over on yesterday’s tour with, “He was a complicated man.” I realize that it’s hard to explore that kind of complexity during a tour of his home (and doing so without sounding like a pedant is even harder), and I understand that many or even most people don’t want to evaluate critically how Jefferson might have sustained those seemingly opposing points of view, but that lack of critical interest is precisely my point. Unlike perhaps most consumers of historical tours, I don’t want to hear, “He was a complicated man” in one breath followed in the next by, “He saw domes on stately buildings in France and knew he wanted one for his home.” I’m not willing to “ooh” about the dome but dismiss the complexities. Perhaps that’s why I enjoyed our conversation with a volunteer after the tour so much. She pointed out that Jefferson was America’s biggest advocate in Europe and wanted Monticello to be an example of why America is a strong and as cultured as Europe. Suddenly, the dome wasn’t a vanity that Jefferson added to the house to make it look more continental but rather was another way for him to say, “Yes, American’s can do this, too.”

Third, I think that there’s a scent of “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” around many historic sites. Dan I were just talking about this, and he summed it up pretty well. There is a significant difference between the values of historic sites like the White House, the Capitol, and Independence Hall and those like Monticello and Montpelier. As Dan said, “Jefferson lived there. So what?” by which I think he meant that few tangible events happened at Monticello itself to advance humanity. Jefferson thought about things at Monticello, but he did something at Independence Hall. Independence Hall represents a coming together of thought. The underlying point that I’m trying to make is that when we label many things as having “historic value,” the value of all of those things is lessened; the White House becomes just one more stop on the tour. Another way to think of it is that overvaluing some sites propagates the tourism “industry,” in the worst sense of the word.

The last reason that I struggle with historical sites (limiting my discussion to “American” sites may be unfair; they do comprise most of my experience, though, so I don’t have a lot of choice) is a bit touchy. Many of the sites our society seems to consider culturally important are located at points of extreme violence. For me, that creates a couple of difficulties. For one thing, the association with violent acts—the Arizona Memorial, the Vietnam Memorial, and most recently, the 9/11 Memorial—makes those sites (to me) monuments to violence. Don’t misunderstand me; I’m not saying the 9/11 Memorial celebrates violence. But sites like these commemorate acts that I don’t particularly want to invoke in such visceral ways.

I also can’t help but view historic sites where violent acts occurred as pins mapping where humanity failed to unite. When I was at the Arizona Memorial a few years ago, I felt like the prevailing attitude was a divisive, almost xenophobic, “They did this to us, and we kicked their asses for it.” I found the experience to be indescribably sad not only because of the lives lost on the ship and during the war but also because of the apparent lack of intellectual and critical growth on the part of human society between 1941 and  2009.

I’ll spare you a summary while I continue to ponder my attitude toward historical sites. In the meantime, on with the show.

We had lots of plans for today. Alex and Mark were talking about going  to a winery. Dan and I were going to kayak on the lake. All four of us have been talking about playing miniature golf since we arrived. In the end, we went to James Madison’s Montpelier, stopped at a barbecue joint that Dan liked and wanted to visit again and then came back to the cabin and took naps. Sigh. It is vacation after all.

I liked the house at Montpelier much more than I liked Monticello even though we got to see much less of it. Montpelier was in the hands of the DuPont family for decades; only recently did it become a public site and renovations to return it to its original form begin. It was a more livable house, I think; less of an architect’s Frankenstein and more of a family home.

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I didn’t care as much for the grounds, though. They included a formal garden that was well maintained and very nice, but the plantings weren’t as various as those at Monticello, and I tend to like less formal gardens. I also found the tour to be more representative of the kinds of tours that I don’t like. I felt like we were very much getting “the spiel” about the house and less about the people in it and their ideas. The large tour group and the fussy child didn’t add to the experience. Because of the so-so grounds and the fact that, like Monticello, photos in the house were forbidden, I don’t have many photos from Montpelier, but here are a few.

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After we left Montpelier, we stopped in Gordonsville at a barbecue joint for a late lunch. I think Dan is mad at me because, again, I didn’t eat. It was late in the afternoon, I wasn’t particularly hungry (I’d been eating chocolate-chip cookies all day; thanks, Alex!), and I didn’t want to spoil my supper. He’ll get over it.

Tonight, Alex cooked up bacon-cheese fries and chicken nachos from our leftovers. Delish! Now, we’re all getting ready for bed and an early start home tomorrow. I doubt I’ll have an entry tomorrow since the day will consist pretty much entirely of the drive back to Columbus, but if anything fun happens along the way, I’ll let you know.

Posted in Virginia, 09/2014 | 1 Comment

Monty’s Cello and Other Wonders

After shuttling from small road to smaller road to tiny road to Indian trail, we arrived at our cabin yesterday afternoon. It’s quite a nice two-bedroom/two-bath affair with a great room and a small kitchen. Tastefully decorated with lots of wood and stone.

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We took it kind of easy for a couple of hours and then took a quick walk around a small part of the grounds. We walked down to the lake and then up to the horse paddock, where we found a swing. I didn’t have my “real” camera with me, but I did take a photo and video of Mark on the swing.

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Everyone here seems to be really nice. All the employees and also all of the guests wave when we pass. It reminds me of when I stopped once with my parents in West Virginia to take a picture of a cow by the road. About 100 yards back from the road was a house with a family sitting on the porch watching us. As soon as I stepped out of the car, they all waved at me. It was the first time that I’d experienced that, and Mom explained that it was common in those parts.

We had dinner last night at a—well—hmm—what to call it? A road-side diner? That doesn’t seem to fit, but it’s probably as close as I can get. If you live in Columbus, think Chef-O-Nette meets Deliverance. It was stuck in the 70s, and the menu was populated with (not very) cleverly named hamburgers, chopped steak, country-fried steak, and so on. My second burger with fries for the day is definitely reminding me of its presence this morning.

After a quick run through the grocery store for honey and batteries (for my keyboard; without them, you’d be wading through a sea of typos), we returned to the cabin and spent the evening talking about—of all things—the Edmund Fitzgerald (song | info) and staring into our phones/laptops/iPads.

As I write, we’re on our way to Monticello, then to UVA. More later. . . .

. . . I have to admit it. Monticello was not as boring as I expected. I’m not a big American history buff, so I expected to hear a lot of, “Thomas Jefferson’s slaves made butter for the household in this cellar,” and so on, but it really wasn’t so pedantic. Our docent, Mary, was quite knowledgeable and engaging. Also, I spent more time walking the grounds and taking photos than I did on the tour, so that helped.

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Even though this is sacrilege to my architect friends, I found the house itself to be graceless. Jefferson’s office/bed closet/sitting room is nice, as is the dining/tea room, but everything else was just uncomfortable and odd to me; I guess that happens when you spend 40 years building a house. Here’s an example: The house has no grand stair—Jefferson considered them a waste of heat and space—so to get up to and down from the second and third floors, we had to climb staircases that consisted of 22-inch-wide by nine-inch-high stairs and that were contained in a six foot by six foot footprint. Try getting up and down those in a formal gown or carrying a child! But because he wanted a dome, Jefferson built on the third floor a large room (possibly the largest room in the house) for which he had no use. The octagonal room beneath the dome was largely unused and, indeed, was so devoid of furnishings during our visit that the echo made it nearly impossible to hear Mary speak. I did find the way the basement and basement entrances were designed to service the house to be ingenious, however.

We had a lovely long chat with one of the volunteers as we were walking from the home back to a very nice visitors’ center, and then we grabbed a bite at the cafe to cap off our visit to Monticello. (For me, cafeteria pizza and not-the-best red velvet cake I’ve ever had.)

If Monticello was the meat and potatoes of the Jeffersonian itinerary, our visit to the University of Virginia—also designed by Jefferson—was kind of the dessert. Which is not necessarily to say that is was any sweeter—most universities that I’ve seen, as charming as they are, are in many ways interchangeable. Rather, UVA was an intellectually smaller course that was delightful in its way but not necessarily additive. We did, however, see some neat public art on campus, and we walked The Lawn that is the heart of campus.

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I think the dome on the rotunda (which was under renovation) at the end of The Lawn was more successful than the dome on Monticello, but perhaps that’s just me.

We left UVA and went to an open-air mall in Charlottesville for a little shopping and for dinner. Food proved to be a sticking point for us—Dan and Alex and I are all picky in our own ways—so we ended up going to a French restaurant and, because I was not particularly hungry anyway, I skipped dinner and had only chocolate mousse. It was worth it.

We ran today for more than 12 hours today, and my dogs are barking; it’s time to call it a night. Tomorrow, they’re threatening to take me on a tour of James Madison’s home. We’ll see how that goes.

Posted in Virginia, 09/2014 | Comments Off on Monty’s Cello and Other Wonders

Fog on the Downs

We’re on our way to a long weekend in Virginia with our friends, Dan and Alex. On the drive through southeastern Ohio, fog is just lifting out of the low places. It’s really rather beautiful. A good start to a long drive.

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This post has gone up a bit after I wrote it because I accidentally interrupted the download of my blogging software. While I don’t consider myself to be overly addicted to technology, I find it funny that in the last five years, preparing for travel has gotten much more complicated because of the technology that I do use. In addition to making sure I don’t forget my underwear or my toothbrush or my umbrella, I now have to make sure I sync’d my devices, packed my cables and chargers, and brought along my headphones. If I had had time, I would have put together an iPod playlist for the drive. Oh for the days when Mom packed my luggage for me.

Posted in Virginia, 09/2014 | 1 Comment

Goodbye, Pacific

We’re flying over the Rockies on our way back to Columbus. Our time in Seattle visiting Steve and meeting Esteban and his other friends was really great. And though it was unusually cold (where hasn’t it been unusually cold this winter?), every day was sunny.

We spent yesterday being tourists. We finally had a leisurely start to the day, rolling out of bed after 8 and not really getting going until 10 or 10:30. Steve took us over to the Pike Place Market, which is similar to the North Market in Columbus, but much much larger.

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Mark and Steve rode the Seattle Great Wheel. I skipped that and explored a little on my own. Steve’s fear of heights got the better of him at the top of the wheel (and later at the Space Needle), but we’re proud of him for making the effort. You can see the wheel in the waterfront shot below (which, for what it’s worth, is near where Big Bertha has been stuck for more than two months after encountering trouble while digging a new highway tunnel).

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I would like to have spent more time in Left Bank Books, but I know that my interest in used bookstores isn’t shared by most of my friends, so I had to settle for a passing perusal. When we come back, I’m definitely blocking out some time, though. Too bad my friend Sue wasn’t with us. She shares my passion and can probably even outlast me among dusty stacks of books.

We ate lunch at the Steelhead Diner. We tried to get into a place called “Matt’s in the Market,” but it was pretty full and was operating on a wait. While I’m on the subject of food, I’ll go ahead and admit that this trip was not my favorite in terms of food. Kevin, Jeff, and Steve are reading this, so part of me hesitates to say so for fear that they’ll feel like they weren’t good hosts, but I’m sure it’s not really a surprise to them. Lots of seafood on the West Coast (duh), and lots of healthy vegetables. I ended up eating three hamburgers and two orders of fish and chips in less than a week. Ahh to have more of that herb bread from John’s Place! And some simple French toast. (We’re going to Paul’s Fifth Avenue for lunch tomorrow so I can start to get my stomach back to normal.)

After lunch, we decided to take the monorail to the Space Needle. On the way, we stopped at Brynie Utz Hats, and I finally found the blue bucket hat that I want for my car—or a close approximation thereof, anyway. It’s been five years of looking! It looks really dumb on me, but it’s what I wanted. I also found a really great gambler-style hat, but since I don’t wear hats very often—especially dress hats—I couldn’t justify the $180 for it. (I do have the details, though, in case I have a banner year and feel like I can splurge on it later.)

The Space Needle was built for the 1962 Seattle World’s Fair, and it sits in the middle of the Seattle Center. It’s another large, lovely urban park with lots of interesting things to see.

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Aside from a Chihuly Glass Garden and Museum (you can see part of one glass sculpture in the first of the two photos above), a plentitude of public art, and an arena (now empty after Oklahoma City “stole” the professional basketball team), the Seattle Center includes the Experience Music Project Museum, which focuses on Jimi Hendrix, among others, and is housed in a building by Frank O. Gehry.

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It’s the first Gehry building I’ve been in. It’s very cool and dynamic. It feels almost like being in the belly of an enormous animal. I thought I had a shot of the outside, but I don’t (not sure how I missed that), so you’ll have to go to the website to check it out. It’s really quite beautiful.

After a delay due to a false fire alarm, we took the high-speed elevator to the top of the Space Needle, where I got these great shots of the skyline and of Elliott Bay. (Steve stayed inside the observation deck for most of the time; the height was just too much for him.)

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We had dinner at the Palace Kitchen last night with two of Steve and Esteban’s friends, who were both interesting and fun to talk to. We did a little clubbing after dinner, but we’re all old now (except for Esteban) and headed for bed by 11 p.m.

Well, that about does it, folks. Back to real life for a few months. Thanks for following along. I do want to apologize for the superficial writing in the posts for this trip. We didn’t have a lot of down time for me to process all the things we were doing, so I had to go for plot over philosophy.

P.S. I thought I was done for this trip, but we came home to this, and I knew I had one more sentence.

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Posted in San Diego and Seattle, 02/2014 | 2 Comments

The Only Vacation to a Cold Locale that Mark Will Ever Get Me to Go On

I have a habit that I didn’t fully realize until Kevin pointed it out in San Diego. When I’m a passenger in a vehicle, I read aloud the signs on businesses as we pass them—“Ralph’s Fine Meats,” “Tammy’s Tropical Trees,” and so on. Apparently, a comedian—maybe Louis Anderson?—had a schtick about his mother doing the same thing, even to the point that “fill dirt” would occasionally fall from her lips. As Steve is chauffeuring us around Seattle, I rattle off this or that sign, realize what I’m doing, murmur “fill dirt” and descend into giggles.

I don’t know why I felt like I needed to share that today, but there it is.

Anyway, yesterday was all about Victoria, British Columbia. Mark and I thought Steve was going to take us to Vancouver, but we are happy that he chose Victoria instead. It’s a really really cute small city with lots to see. And I’m sure I will love it even more when we come back in the summer. God it was cold.

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We had to get up early—6 a.m.—to make it to the ferry for an 8 a.m. departure. We were still wiping sleep out of our eyes as we navigated the boarding process, during which, one of the ticket agents flirted with Mark. Steve and I just watched and snickered. Maybe it’s the ring, but I think he’s still got it.

The ride over was long—two-and-a-half hours—but pretty peaceful. I never realized how chopped up Puget Sound is. We sailed past lots of big and small islands, not to mention freighters. (It was all I could do to ignore the freighters; my irrational fear of big boats was getting the best of me.)

We arrived in a sunny Victoria at around 11. Here are a few shots I took while we got our bearings.

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Our first order of business was breakfast/lunch. One of the mates on the ferry had told us where to find a couple good places, but of course, we forgot where they were, so we had to ask at a store. The clerk recommended a diner called “John’s Place” just up the street. Wow! Was that a great suggestion.

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The waffles and bacon were delicious, the service was spunky and fun, but the bread! OMG the bread! I’m going to have to try to find the recipe online, but it was the best herb bread I’ve ever had. Warm, kind of an Irish soda bread. Fantastic!

After lunch, we wandered a little through shops, but it was hard to be outside for long because of the cold. We did see a couple interesting sights around Chinatown, though.

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Believe it or not, that last shot is of a public men’s room.

We stopped for a while to tour the Empress Hotel and the popped over to the Royal BC Museum.

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We decided not to go in because we wouldn’t have that long before we had to get back on the ferry at 4. We spent about a half hour grabbing coffee and walking through the gift shop, and then we decided to tour the Parliament building. I was fascinated by how little security we encountered. We could roam pretty freely around much of the first two floors; only a few areas, like the legislative chamber, were gated off.

These are some shots of the interior of the building. You can see a shot of part of the exterior in the second photo on this page.

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The first shot is of the rotunda. I couldn’t get directly centered under it because the floor is an imported Italian mosaic under glass and is roped off. The second shot is of a stained-glass window commemorating Queen Victoria’s Jubilee. Apparently, someone put it away in the basement and forgot about it. It was down there for sixty years or so before someone discovered it and had it brought up to be displayed. When Parliament is in session, the seargent-at-arms displays an enormous gold mace on the desk in the center of the third photo, which is of the legislative chamber. You can see that Parliament is not currently in session—no mace.

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A Quick Intro to a Cold Seattle

I was totally whipped last night, so no summary of yesterday’s adventures, but really, you didn’t miss much. We had some confusion about our flight, but that was pretty minor, and when we got to Seattle, we drove around with Steve for a quick tour (all of which went over my head; if you dropped me in the middle of Seattle today, I’d still never get back home). Here are a couple photos.

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My God it was cold; I didn’t stay outside long enough to get much more.

We picked up his boyfriend, Esteban, at around 5 and then drove to Tides Tavern in Tacoma for dinner. Good fish and chips!

Addendum:
I forgot to mention that we got to drive over the Tacoma Narrows bridge. For those of you who may be saying “So what,” I remind you that the first Tacoma Narrows bridge was nicknamed “Galloping Gertie” before the winds ripping through the Narrows tore it apart on November 7, 1940.

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So Long, San Diego

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All things must come to an end. We’re leaving sunny San Diego today for new fun in Seattle. The shot above is Kevin and Jeff’s house this morning as we left. We’re looking forward to seeing our long-missed friend, Steve. We’re also happy that we’re not yet on our way back to Columbus, which got 10.7 inches of snow last night. Whew!

[Quick aside: We’re flying past a volcano crater lake right now; very cool!]

I had mentioned to Kevin and Jeff that one of my favorite things to do in new cities is to walk around neighborhoods. I think it’s interesting to see how people live, how they keep their homes and yards, what kind of cars they drive—that kind of thing. To indulge me, Kevin played tour guide (Jeff needed to work this morning again; he works too much for his own good <g>.) through Kensington, a wealthy-but-not-snooty (I’m looking at you, La Jolla) neighborhood where I took just a couple shots like this one.

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That’s faux grass, in case you’re wondering. San Diego, like the rest of California, is in the midst of a drought.

We grabbed a bite at Kensington Café (an egg, cheese, bacon, and black pepper sandwich on a wheat bagel for me; it was really very tasty) and then a soy Carmel Frappucino® at Starbucks before heading down to the county building to drop off our now signed marriage license. We’ll be able to request a certified copy for ourselves in a couple weeks.

Our big tourist event of the day was exploring the USS Midway, which is an aircraft carrier that now serves as a museum in San Diego harbor. Mark was really excited to see it, and though it’s not really my thing, I was happy to join him, especially on the flight deck because it was a beautiful day. Kevin begged off. He’s seen it several times already and is anticipating seeing it again in a couple weeks with Jeff’s brother.

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We had a few minutes to kill before Kevin picked us up around 2, so we visited the Bob Hope memorial just outside the Midway.

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We met Jeff for a light Indian lunch and then a nice walk through Balboa Park. I took most of my photos for the day in the park, which is huge and wonderful. It’s a real gem, and I wish we had something comparable in Columbus. I’ll definitely visit it again when we return.

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As the sun started getting really low, the four of us returned to the house to freshen up. Then off to meet two of their friends for a Mexican dinner at Casa de Pina. It’s the best Mexican food I’ve had in quite a while, but I guess what would you expect in a city that’s less than 30 minutes from the Mexican border?

We’ll be landing in Seattle soon. Twenty-five degrees, but sunny.

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